Going the Distance in Life: Creating Something Bigger than Yourself

Going the Distance in Life

Going the Distance in Life: Creating Something Bigger than Yourself

Going the Distance in Life

Creating Something Bigger than Yourself

There are a number of ways to accomplish things. Before the task is done, there are a few steps. You have to figure out what you want to do, have a plan to do it, determine any materials necessary to complete the task, start the process, modify when necessary and then complete the process. There may be some other steps but I think you get the idea. The big question is “What is the benefit?” The benefit part always has some type of reward. It can be material gain, avoidance of discomfort and/or pain or just for the joy of it.
When thinking about a career, we often look at the material gain part. How much will it pay? What is the benefit package? What type of working environment is it in? All of these are based on certain conditions and considered “Conditional Motivations.” In looking into careers, these conditional motivations are one of the elements of choosing a career and what type of preparation we are going to make to be successful.
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Conditional Motivation is great in the short run. Yet when challenges come or the process becomes difficult or boring, there has to be some additional motivation or we crash and burn. “Crash and burn” comes in various ways, underproduction or burnout being two obvious results.
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The alternative is an internal motivation for a purpose larger than you, that larger purpose being something that you find fulfilling and worth the effort. Many people choose pretty difficult tasks in nasty circumstances yet they complete them and in the end enjoy the results. That type of motivation is considered “Intrinsic Motivation.” Conditional Motivation is good for short-term rewards along the way. The benefit is lost once received and spent. Intrinsic motivation is a stronger motivation tool because the benefit is never used up. It can be a strong memory or seeing the results played out on an ongoing basis.

Action Time.

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If you are a student, take some time to consider your source of motivation. Grades on a test or in a class are short term rewards and fade after received. They are great “Conditional Motivators.” They help along the way. Try thinking about the long-term reason for your studies and preparation.
Look for the big long-term purpose. For the visual types, try making a picture of the results and post it in an obvious place where you see it every day. For the auditory type, try making a short recording, put it to music and listen to it on a regular basis. For the hands on learner, make some physical object you can hold to remind you of the end you are going after.
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When challenged, revisit your Intrinsic Motivator to help go the distance. I would look forward to hearing what your motivators are and what tools you use to remind you of where you are going.

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How to Appeal a College’s Financial Aid to Receive More

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How to Appeal a College’s Financial Aid to Receive More

Dealing with a Low Ball Offer

This month, we have been going over various types of grants. The last part of this series is perhaps the most important. It has to do with getting schools to compete for you after they have sent a formal offer. The bottom line is you can appeal to the school for more money. This can happen in a couple of different ways. The first is due to hardship. If your family has experienced some financial hardship in the last year that makes the Free Application for Student AID (FAFSA) unrepresentative of your current circumstances, you can appeal to the financial aid officer and present your case. Bear in mind that these have to be legitimate family issues; a parent that was recently laid off their job, a sickness in the family, or some other valid reason. Vet bills for your favorite horse probably don’t apply. Financial officers have the ability and discression to adjust expenses due to out of the ordinary new circumstances. They are people too and have a heart.
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The second appeal is to simply ask for more dollars. Schools can and do low ball their first offers. There is information available that estimates the average percentage of “need” that a college will provide. If the figure you receive is significantly below that average for you as a student, the school is attempting to low ball you. In this case, you can go back to the college and indicate that their offer is below what you believe you can afford and thus ask them to sweeten the pot. If you are a student they want to fill their seats, they are often willing to do so. It never hurts to ask.
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The last appeal is based on competition. If you have a school that wants you and you want to go there but another school is offering a better package, tell the lower bidder. Explain the situation. Express the fact that you would like to go to their school but have other offers from other quality schools that are more cost effective. Provide the low bidder the details of the offer and ask them to meet it. If they want you and the offer is truly competitive, you may be surprised to see how the low bidder will work to get you into their school. Worst case is they won’t do it. Best case is they can up the grant and save you significant dollars.
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Action time.

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College education is a business, a big one. It works like a business in its dealings. While not quite the same as the corner used car lot, there are issues to be considered in reducing your costs and trying to obtain the best deal and still receive a quality education. I would look forward to working with you to help you receive the best value for your education dollar. Feel free to email me of give my office a call for an initial consultation.
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Get your Professional and Personal MOJO

concert, celebration, fun

Get your Professional and Personal MOJO

If you want to learn how to fish, watch and learn form a great fisherman. If you want to get better in a sport, you learn and practice under a good coach. Concept is learning from and emulating the habits of pros.
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I recently had to opportunity to read MOJO by Marshall Goldsmith. Marshall is recognized as one of the best executive coaches in the market place. This is a concise little book that covers a lot of territory in a few pages. There are lots of great ideas and you can pick up some of them from his site, www.mojothebook.com .
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There is one I would have you consider. Here is his chart (well, it is my chart with his stuff!).
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Professional MOJO                                     Personal MOJO
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M         K         A          C         A          T          H         R         M         L          G         T
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t           o          i           n          t           t           p          w         a          a          a          t
i           w         l           f           h          a          p          a          n          n          t           a
v          l           i           i           e          l           i           r           i           i           i           l
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t           d          y          e          t                       e          s          g          g          u
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So, what do you do with it? Well, every day, list out the activities when you do them. Then, grade yourself on a scale from 1 to 10 (Be honest as you are the only one that is going to see it.). Try doing this for a few days or a couple of weeks. I am betting you will see a pattern in both the activities and the grade you give yourself.
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Action Time.

So, here’s the deal. Check out the activities and your grade. Are the activities something that benefits you in the short run? How do they impact you or others in the long run? If they are of benefit in both the long and short run, yet you score low, what are some ways that you can increase your scores? If they benefit you in the short run but not in the long run, are there better uses of your time that are more satisfying and help you reach more important goals? What steps are you going to take to change your scores or the activities? Try making a list in your journal and sharing them with a few close friends. Post them someplace you can see them to remind yourself. Now, put a date on your calendar to revisit what you wanted to accomplish. On that date, write me a note and let me know what has happened and your good success. If you want a coach to help you flesh these out and keep you accountable, we can do that too. I would look forward to hearing from you.
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Power through Storytelling

the power of great story telling

The Power of Great Storytelling

How you can you recreate your message using storytelling?

That had been a long day. Many patients had come to see Dr. Jess. One had a leg all swollen up, another had a fever, some had eye problems, and that lady, well, we never knew her problem. The line seemed like it would never end but it did. Dr. Jess dealt with each one, prescribing just the right remedy, taking care of them right there and then. It was amazing to see him at work and the smile on their faces when they left.
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We all needed a break after that day. It had been a long week. Pete, a fisherman, had a small sail boat docked down at the lake. Jim had a cabin on the other side of the lake. The whole office, even Dr. Jess (he often went on short vacations with us, you know), climbed in and off we went.
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All was well, at first. The lake was quiet and the wind just right.  We should have been there in a couple of hours. Dr. Jess sat toward the back of the boat and fell asleep, fast asleep. He must have been really drained.
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We started joking and laughing, sort of loud, loosening up after a hard day.  He, Dr. Jess, I mean, he was really out. He usually joked and teased with the best of us and always had stories of his own to tell. But tonight, for him, lights out. He just sort of sat there, leaning on the side of the boat, lost in sleep, his body rolling gently with the waves.
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Then it hit. A wind from the south came like a blast; the lake, it became foaming walls of water, driving the boat like a leaf in a hurricane. Water came in from all directions. We were all drenched. A couple of us quickly tried to row, others tried bailing water, all were panicked, except Dr. Jess. I got a glimpse of him. He was soaked from head to toe, water splashing on him all the time but he was still asleep, I mean hard asleep. I couldn’t believe it. Wind roaring, water flying, boat pitching. How could he sleep through all this?
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Pete and John (they’re some of the physicians’ assistants, you know) started shaking him, I mean really shaking him, panic kind of shaking. I couldn’t hear what they said, I can only imagine. He was standing now. His look wasn’t panicked though. It was sort of calm. Then I saw his mouth move. I couldn’t hear because of all the wind but I saw him say “Peace.” He no sooner moved his lips and roaring stopped. Then I heard him quiet but forceful like say, “Be Still.” He motioned to the waters with his hands. The lake turned to glass. I mean right that moment. Whenever I think about it, well it’s still hard to believe.
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That water was smooth, smooth as glass and the air, quiet peaceful like. It’s still hard to believe.

Dr. Jess received a call from his father and needed to go back and work on their family ranch. His father owns a construction company and wanted Dr Jess to work on some homes they had in mind for their staff. They’re generous that way. He left us to manage the office. We hired some more Physician Assistants and opened some more offices. It’s a pretty big operation now. We email Dr. Jess quite regular and he gets back to us. Sometimes it’s a bit delayed but he always gets back. It is always good to hear from him. Not quite the same as when he was here, though. I sure do remember that day, just like it was yesterday.

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I wanted to share with you my latest work from a current storytelling class.  It is true that one can more eloquently express a point or principle through the power of storytelling. Well? Does this story resonate with you? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

 

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Toddler learning to walk

What You can Learn from a Toddler About Achieving a Goal

Toddler learning to walk

What You can Learn from a Toddler About Achieving a Goal

 

Have you ever noticed the issues involved with a baby learning to walk? I mean, really? Here are some things I observe. First, the distance down is relatively short. Second, they are fairly light so any downward impact is relatively small. Third, their body tissue is flexible and soft, less susceptible to any great damage. Next, they are surrounded with examples of successful walkers whom they observe constantly. Lastly, they are undaunted by the task. They try over and over again, making large mistakes at first while programming their hard drives with small bites of muscle memory.   Then the mistakes are less and less until they have mastered the whole process, one they will use for the rest of their life. All the while, they are enthusiastically and joyously pursuing the goal, usually with the smiling and loving support of walkers with varying levels of experience around them.
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Action Time!

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When you want to take on a new task, surround yourself with experience of all levels and watch. Focus on the process. Expect mistakes, usually big ones at first. Understand that the size of the mistakes will lessen over time. In the beginning, use material that can easily and inexpensively be replaced until you are ready for the finished product. Have people close at hand, who have experienced similar challenges, survived and will encourage you forward. Ignore the unwilling or those who only want to crawl or sit. Chase after it with gusto and choose not to give up. Enjoy the journey. What strides are next? I would look forward to hearing about your next stroll.
That was short and sweet! (The last blog was rather lengthy!)
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How to Become More Creative & Innovative

The Secret to Becoming More Creative and Innovative

How to Become More Creative & Innovative

How to Become More Creative and Innovative

The battle is a small skirmish between two neighboring tribes.  One tribe fought with spears, the other with bows and arrows. The tribe with arrows had discovered a potion that if placed on the tip of the arrow, would decommission the victim.  This potion came from vegetation they fed to their goats.  While it made humans sick, the goats enjoyed the roughage. The enemy tribe knew the potion wasn’t fatal if dealt with quickly.  
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The battling issue was relatively insignificant yet people are launching deadly spearsand arrows at one another. One of the great warriors was shot with an arrow laced with potion.  As he stands with the arrow in his leg, his loud curses halt the skirmish.  The numbing pain of the potion streamed through the strong body of this great warrior. Believing the wound to be fatal, he demands to look the enemy who shot this deadly arrow in the eye. A weak puny warrior steps forward as the perpetrator. The great warrior wails his condition and villianizes his opponent, demanding to know how and why he could do such a horrific act and especially to this great warrior.  Don’t they know who he is?  As he lay dying, cursing his fate, in his last breath, he demands an apology from the perpetrator. He is gone. His fellow warriors wail their loss.  The enemy goes back home, mocking the foolishness of their enemy, lifting this meager warrior on their shoulders; they take pride in the success of the battle. (How is that for drama?)
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In the same skirmish, a few bushes down, another of the tribesmen suffers a similar wound.  In all the commotion surrounding the great warrior, this warrior quickly pulled the arrow from his side. Having witnessed the effects of this potion in a skirmish between different tribes, this warrior had discovered a neutralizing remedy.  It was madeof some other vegetation and saliva from a goat. (He read tea leaves a lot and discovered the answer one day while relaxing, sipping tea and reading the leaves.) This observant warrior quickly retreats to his remedy stash in the pouch he cared just incase and treats the wound.  He survived.  His fellow warriors are amazed at his recovery.  They are willing to pay any amount to buy this mysterious solution.  Our survivor starts to mass produce the potion, builds a pharmaceutical company,employees his fellow tribesman to positions of great responsibility and industry, disarms the enemy and hires them at minimum wage to swab the throats of goats.
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Action Time.

Well, not all the pieces of the story fit perfectly.  It was fun making it up. Two types of warriors.  Ones who bemoan their state, minor or major that it may be, fall victim to some action and are decommissioned from the joys of life.  Others deal with the circumstances.  They see and come to know the problem.  They disarm it and use their experience to benefit themselves and others.  What is your problem?  What experiences or relationships do you have that can help develop a solution?  What actions are you going to take to resolve it?  How might those actions benefit you or others around you in the future? When are you going to deal with it?  I would look forward to hearing about your potions and the arrows you pull out.   

 

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mapping out your life

How to Map Out and Achieve Your Goals for the Next 10 Years

mapping out your life

Planned Success: How to Map out Your Goals for the Next 10 Years and Achieve Them!

The other evening I had the opportunity to attend the celebration of a friend’s 40th wedding anniversary. It was an enjoyable reunion of various family members and friends that had known the couple over the years. As part of the evening, the couple talked about their years together, the struggles they had gone through as well as the abiding love they had for each other. The children also took the opportunity to share for a few minutes some of their memories of growing up.
One thing that struck me as I watched them discuss their memories was the memories I had of their children, especially their son. Their son, now a fully grown man with a wife, not to long ago was a thin gangly kid, rather uncoordinated but with a certain sense of humor and a quick smile. His parents had that same certain level of humor that was pervasive in their conversations and their lifestyle. Now he is a standup comedian in a local venue. He is participating in the dream of his youth, one he envisioned and worked toward. It would have been hard to imagine that then but, now, what a deal!
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Action Time!

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Two action items this week. There are a number of sites that can take a current picture and age it some 10 years or so. For the fun of it, make up one of these pictures of you 10 years in the future. (I can’t recommend a site cause I don’t know the security issues involved. If you aren’t 18 yet, check with your parents first. Do be careful when doing this and be sure not to release personal confidential information.)
Now, make a time line of your whole life. Start at your birth. Use a picture of you as a baby and put it at the beginning of the line. Make the line reasonably long. Don’t get concerned about the age your body gets to room temperature cause right now that is a little morbid and none of us have a crystal ball. Let’s focus on the next 10 to 20 years. Take your current picture and put it somewhere close to the left end the line. That is where you are now. Put the hypothetical picture on the line about half the distance from your birth to where you are now. (For those math people, if you are, say 16, 10 years are about half of 16 so 10 years into the future would be about half the distance from birth to 16 and then added to 16. Got it?  If not, go back to the word “Now.” and read it again! If you have it, continue! )
Now, put the major events on the line that you remember from growing up. Put down why they were important to you and a thing or two that you learned from them. Next, put some major events on the time line between your current picture and the 10 year from now picture. One might be graduating from high school, another from college, getting your first professional dream job, or other events that you want to accomplish in the next 10 years. Got it? Good!
Now write down some details for the events you’ve listed that you want to accomplish to make those events meaningful to you, not to anybody else, but just to you. As this blog is getting long in the tooth, let your imagination go to work and dream of the next 10 years. Chances are very great they are going to happen anyway. What do you want to make of them? Would look forward to a picture of your time line and what you have learned.
By the way, I would remind you that Bill Cosby, one of America’s most loved comedians and one of my favorites, was a once a teenage kid.

 

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