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Train Yourself to Override Negative Thoughts with One Brain Exercise

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Train Yourself to Override Negative Thoughts with One Brain Exercise

There is a section of psychology that focuses on rewards. Most of us are familiar with the process that a psychologist used to train dogs. Pavlov used a treat to reward a dog for accomplishing a task. In the process of giving the dog the treat, he would add some audible command. Eventually the dog would mentally transfer the reward with the command. The end result is the dog responded to the command without the reward. The poor dog would get to the point of drooling at the command yet never get the treat.
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We do the same thing. We quickly mentally associate something with some physical event. As an example, when you throw up after eating some food, next time you see that food, you mentally revert back to the bad experience and refuse the food. It may have been your favorite and the event had nothing to do with the food but you turn it down.
Here’s the big deal. You can choose to eat the food anyway and continue to enjoy that tasty morsel. After a while, your brain will stop reminding you of the bad deal. You can choose to overwrite a distasteful event with something pleasurable. Or you can yield to what your brain is telling you and miss out on the benefits and mentally reinforce that wrong association.

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You can use this deal to your benefit. Think of one of the most positive experiences you had. For me it is skydiving. Now, associate that with something important to you, some value you want to remember. Work hard to mentally associate these two things together. Next, take this association and connect it to some small physical action. An easy one is to pinch the skin between your thumb and index finger. Mentally keep working these three associations together. Some call this process setting an anchor or cue.
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After you have set this cue, think of something all together different; say the last two numbers of your phone number.  Now, quickly do the cue. See if the mental image doesn’t come back and override the distraction. This is a great process.
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Why bother? Well, next time you get into a stressful situation, use the cue to override the stress to get back to where you mentally want to be. Check it out! I would look forward to hearing your cue and how you use it. I would enjoy working with you to use cueing and other mental exercises to help you accelerate you being all you have been created to be.

 

 

 

 

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Financial Aid: Figuring out What you are Actually Paying for College

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Financial Aid: Figuring out What You are Actually Paying for College

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This month, we have talked about College Financial AID and how the numbers are worked up. We have been dealing with what is called “Need” and what kind of aid is available to fill this gap. Last week, we talked about government aid. This week, we will briefly discuss grants available from the colleges themselves.
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Grants usually come in the form of “Merit” based aid. Merit aid goes to students that the colleges or universities are targeting to add to their student body. This typically goes to students that work on positioning the 5 different college entrance requirements: high school grades, SAT scores, extracurricular activities, letters of recommendation and the college entrance essay. For the students that meet these entrance hurdles, colleges can target certain students in the upper qualification echelon with a percentage of aid to meet their “Need.” (Bear in mind that the family still has to pay the Effective Family Contribution (EFC)). So, when you receive offers from the universities or colleges, their grants will be working on this perceived “Need.”
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Here is where you have to be careful regarding the award letters. As mentioned earlier, some letters do not have very accurate Cost of Attendance figures, making the real cost higher then what they send you. Other offers with wrap in various student loans as part of the offer so it becomes important to read the fine print to see exactly what real money is coming out of the schools’ pocket and what will ultimately come out of your pocket and then make a comparison between the schools you are looking at. You may find that one offer that appears to look equal to another has a bottom line that actually has you paying more dollars due to various loans and work programs. Next week we will mention some ways to attempt to get the schools to up the grant.
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 Action Time.

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As you receive offers from schools, make a spread sheet that deals with what you believe is the real cost of attendance, your EFC, the perceived need, the actual grant from the college, the loans that need to be taken out, the contributions based on work-study programs and any other values that you believe you may experience and then calculate how much the real cost for each school. Now you will have a valid cost comparison. I would be glad to review the offers you receive and see how they compare.

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Turning your Vision Statement to Actionable Goals

Turning your Vision Statement into Actionable Goals

Turning your Vision Statement to Actionable Goals

Turning your Vision Statement into Actionable Goals

The tunnel is getting brighter. Since January, we have been working through developing a values/purpose statement with the ultimate goal of developing a vision for what we would like our future path to look like. No guarantees that it will be like what we envision. The goal is to have a vision for the bigger picture.
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In my personal values statement, I have listed, first, some action words (serve, grow and laugh) then some nouns (trust, integrity and zest) to generate action and finally a purpose (for the glory of God) to fulfill the purpose of living the way I do. I offered the example of putting personal insights into the action words and how they were important to me. The next step I took was to put some meaning into the action words and the purpose to come up with a few meaningful paragraphs describing my value statement.
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So, here is what I would suggest as the next step. With a broad brush, put down the key goals that you have for the next year, 3 years, 5 years and 10 years for both your personal and professional life. Don’t get too specific. Choose to list out the biggies for each of these time periods. You can deal with the steps on getting there later. Once you have listed these out, work on the common threads between these goals. For me, they were the relationships I have with family, friends and business acquaintances, then the maintenance of existing resources and the future purchase of new resources and finally, the areas of recreation that I would like to become involved in. With these as a list, I would suggest developing paragraphs that summarizes the core of your values when incorporated into the goals you have set for the next 10 years. How about them apples?
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This probably will take some thought and a few runs at it. In the end, I hope to have developed a rich and full vision of what and how I hope to approach the next years that have been allotted to me.

Action Time.

There are many ways to make these meaningful statements. With the values, I found it easier to look through a list and find the most meaningful concepts. Others would suggest you write down the values that come to your mind in a 30 second time period. I offered some additional steps in the process to design some vision for the future. I am not suggesting this is the only way.   It is one way I have found to be reasonable. The goal is to Just Do It. Having gone through the process, the challenge is to live it out. I would look forward to what you develop. If you wish, I would enjoy looking over your shoulder and hold you accountable to getting it done and then living it out. That is what a good coach does.

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Creating Your Perfect Vision Statement

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Creating Your Perfect Vision Statement

In continuing the theme of developing and exploring a value statement, with your permission, a story about my own exploration may offer some inspiration. I was working through my own value statement with a coach (yes, I have a coach that helps me think through my own processes!) My ultimate goal is to set up a vision for the future based on the values that I have. What we were doing was looking at each word in the statement to work out how it fit into how I wanted to live and work.
The first part of the statement is, “Free to serve, grow and laugh”. Part of my life structure is enjoying the serving of people. I enjoy learning what they desire and need and then helping them obtain it. I get jollies out of seeing them take steps to obtain the goals they have set for themselves and the satisfaction they receive in doing so. So service is something big to me. The next word in the sentence is growth. The reason I enjoy serving is it provides the opportunity for others to grow and as they grow, I am learning from them and growing as well. That is a win-win for both of us.
As I was walking through this mentally, the theme of the old classic song “Is that all there is?” popped out. When we accomplish something, and there is no more to do, growth can stop in that area. There is usually a letdown after some major accomplishment. If we don’t have some other area to grow in we can become mental and physical couch potatoes. On the other hand, when we make mistakes, the mistakes give us the opportunity to continue to grow, as long as we persist. So, in my thinking process, serve and grow brought meaning to the word “Free.” Serving people as they grow gives us both the freedom and security to grow personally even through mistakes and still bring benefit to each other. Now, if you add laughter to the whole deal, what some might call “Joy”, I would be living out the first part of my value statement. Such a deal!! I am sure you have already thought of that but for me, that was a good use of my thought and it’s laying a foundation for the vision that I want to generate.
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Action Time.

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Having taken the time to create a value statement and writing out some scenarios where you see your values and skills at work, what are some of the emotions that you experienced? Do these activities provide an energy high or was it a drainer?   What are the drainers? Work through generating some of these ideas and you will be one step closer to designing a vision statement for the days ahead. I would look forward to hearing what your progress is.

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Creating a Vision for Your Future that Delivers Joy


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Creating a Vision for Your Future that Delivers Joy

Through the month of January, we looked at values and coming up with a Value Statement. Whether we realize it or not, we usually feel most fulfilled when we live within our personal values. Often while I do something foolish or out of character and then generate a sense of guilt or shame, it usually is because I have stepped outside of the things I value most. Taking the time to focus on the values we feel important, writing them down and keeping them in front of us helps keep us on our personal track and doing the things that offer the greatest sense of fulfillment and what I will call “Joy.”
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I would offer to you that these values live inside our mental state and, when focused on, will motivate us to those actions that fulfill our own lives and hopefully the lives of others.
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So, this month, I would have you begin to consider the actions that flow from your values that give you purpose. I mentioned the Value Statement that I carry for myself: “Free to serve, grow and laugh through trust, integrity and zest, all for the glory of God.”   In looking at my statement, the first four value concepts are verbs, words of action: free, grow, serve and laugh. The last three are nouns: trust integrity and zest.  The last carries purpose. What verbs are in your Value Statement, what are the nouns and what is the purpose?

Action Time.

Let’s take some time to briefly experience your Value Statement at work to help in the next step, developing vision for the future. If your value or vision statement has verbs in it, take some time to look back over some of the most fond memories and events you have experienced. These may have occurred through pure chance or they may have been planned. It may have been a time when events caused your mental light to come on (some would call that an epiphany!) or you just did something out of pure intuition, it turned out well and you experienced a great sense of satisfaction. Write a few paragraphs about the event, the things you did in the process and the results. In this journaling, write down some of the emotions you felt. Now consider the process through the lens of your Value statement. How did they line up? What was the thought or action process that brought you into and out of this event? Was your focus such that all the events around you were blocked out and you were in the pure flow of it? As you write down a few of these events and consider them, are there any common elements that were part of these experiences? If so, what are they? I would look forward to hearing from you understanding what you developed. We are making some good progress.
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Achieve Your Goals by Aligning Yourself with Your Core Values

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Achieve Your Goals by Aligning Yourself with Your Core Values

We have made some good progress over the last few weeks. We have reviewed and set some goals for the year, considered and prioritized the values that are important to us and worked through a Value Statement. The next step I would have you consider is what is called the “Wheel of Life.” What I would have you do is draw a number of concentric circles. (Concentric means circles with the same center.) Now, in the very smallest circle, which of your purposes represents the core of who you are, write in your Value Statement. Now, divide the main picture into 8 pie shaped pieces, leaving the central circle alone. For each of the pieces of the pie, consider them as aspects of your life. Here are names for the pieces: Career/Business; Family and Friends; Finances; Romance/Intimacy;Health;Social/Fun; Personal Spiritual; Physical. Having done so, if each of the smaller circles represents a value, say from 1 to 10, where would you be in each of these areas of your life, based on what you feel your current position is? Shade in the various areas, from the central circle to your current personal ranking to give you a visual representation of where you find yourself now. You have established your personal Wheel of Life.

Action Time.

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Seeing your own personal scoring in each of these sections, how does your scoring line up with your goals for the year? Based on your Value Statement, what would it take to step up any one piece of the pie one or two more levels toward a 10? Based on your Value Statement, which one needs the most attention and is one you are willing to and will commit to taking the time to focus on? What steps will you commit to get to the next level and in what time frame? Put down some ideas for where you want to focus, set some time limits and share the process with someone close to you. Review often then rate yourself in 3 months to see how you are doing? I would look forward to hearing about your Wheel of Life and the steps you are going to take to better your position. I would be honored to coach you through the process and keep you accountable to yourself in this rewarding and purpose driven process.
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Upgrade Your Life: Achieve More in 2015 with this Mindset

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Upgrade Your Life: Achieve More in 2015 with this Mindset

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In preparing to write the blogs for this month, I looked back at the blog for January of 2014. As we are starting a New Year, dealing with the years goals is often appropriate and looking back on the goals from last year as well. So here is reporting time. Last year, there were goals set in the spiritual, mental, relational, physical and recreational side.
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 So here goes.

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 On the spiritual side, I focused on reading one book of the Bible at least once a month and from different versions as well as reading a commentary on that book. I can boast that I achieved my goal. The book I chose was the book of Matthew. I have read it multiple times and am finishing a commentary today by an author who lived in the 1800s. There are a variety of things that have jumped out at me regarding my faith and I have found this very rewarding. I hope to focus on one book again in 2015 and continue the study of the person of Jesus.
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On the mental side, my goal was to read one book a week. Success again. I have had the opportunity of going through some 55 books in a fairly broad range of topics and hopefully have learned and put into practice some of the things I have read. The goal for this year is the same. I am also taking courses to become certified as a Life and Academic Coach and should be finished mid year.
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On the relational side, I will admit falling down. I had a goal to observe the body language of those around me so as to be more sensitive to their needs. I didn’t do well on this one and am going to pursue it again this year.

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On the physical side, my goal was to maintain an exercise routine and lose a few pounds. Partial success. I have maintained the routine and added to it by riding my bike 2 hours each Saturday morning before the rest of my family gets up. I failed to lose the pounds. Goal is to maintain that routine.

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On the recreational side, I had hoped to become familiar with Bach. No go. Had good intentions but failed to follow through by reviewing the goal and setting up times to do it. Goal for 2015 on the recreation side is to go paragliding at least once and start to learn about this fantastic sport. (I have a secret desire to fly and this is as close as I think I will get to it!) So off we go.

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Action Time.

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What about your goals? If you are considering setting goals for the year, consider the areas I have mentioned. I would have you consider goals that are dependent solely on your activity. For example, if you are a student, consider setting goals for progressing in how you learn and not on the grades you earn. Grades are dependent on your efforts and the input of your teacher. You can control your efforts. Your grade may be dependent on a teacher’s opinion. That is something you can’t control. If you are in business, set your goals on activities and adjust the activities to meet the employers’ requirements and/or your personal career goals. If you are a parent, set goals for the activities you want to do and the lessons you desire to teach.

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The mindset is to do your part. Your personal identity or achievement shouldn’t be dependent on the results.   Write them down, carry them with you and review regularly. I would look forward to hearing some of the goals you set and working with you to be accountable toward reaching them.
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