Going the Distance in Life: Creating Something Bigger than Yourself

Going the Distance in Life

Going the Distance in Life: Creating Something Bigger than Yourself

Going the Distance in Life

Creating Something Bigger than Yourself

There are a number of ways to accomplish things. Before the task is done, there are a few steps. You have to figure out what you want to do, have a plan to do it, determine any materials necessary to complete the task, start the process, modify when necessary and then complete the process. There may be some other steps but I think you get the idea. The big question is “What is the benefit?” The benefit part always has some type of reward. It can be material gain, avoidance of discomfort and/or pain or just for the joy of it.
When thinking about a career, we often look at the material gain part. How much will it pay? What is the benefit package? What type of working environment is it in? All of these are based on certain conditions and considered “Conditional Motivations.” In looking into careers, these conditional motivations are one of the elements of choosing a career and what type of preparation we are going to make to be successful.
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Conditional Motivation is great in the short run. Yet when challenges come or the process becomes difficult or boring, there has to be some additional motivation or we crash and burn. “Crash and burn” comes in various ways, underproduction or burnout being two obvious results.
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The alternative is an internal motivation for a purpose larger than you, that larger purpose being something that you find fulfilling and worth the effort. Many people choose pretty difficult tasks in nasty circumstances yet they complete them and in the end enjoy the results. That type of motivation is considered “Intrinsic Motivation.” Conditional Motivation is good for short-term rewards along the way. The benefit is lost once received and spent. Intrinsic motivation is a stronger motivation tool because the benefit is never used up. It can be a strong memory or seeing the results played out on an ongoing basis.

Action Time.

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If you are a student, take some time to consider your source of motivation. Grades on a test or in a class are short term rewards and fade after received. They are great “Conditional Motivators.” They help along the way. Try thinking about the long-term reason for your studies and preparation.
Look for the big long-term purpose. For the visual types, try making a picture of the results and post it in an obvious place where you see it every day. For the auditory type, try making a short recording, put it to music and listen to it on a regular basis. For the hands on learner, make some physical object you can hold to remind you of the end you are going after.
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When challenged, revisit your Intrinsic Motivator to help go the distance. I would look forward to hearing what your motivators are and what tools you use to remind you of where you are going.

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vision for future

Creating a Vision for Your Future that Delivers Joy


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Creating a Vision for Your Future that Delivers Joy

Through the month of January, we looked at values and coming up with a Value Statement. Whether we realize it or not, we usually feel most fulfilled when we live within our personal values. Often while I do something foolish or out of character and then generate a sense of guilt or shame, it usually is because I have stepped outside of the things I value most. Taking the time to focus on the values we feel important, writing them down and keeping them in front of us helps keep us on our personal track and doing the things that offer the greatest sense of fulfillment and what I will call “Joy.”
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I would offer to you that these values live inside our mental state and, when focused on, will motivate us to those actions that fulfill our own lives and hopefully the lives of others.
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So, this month, I would have you begin to consider the actions that flow from your values that give you purpose. I mentioned the Value Statement that I carry for myself: “Free to serve, grow and laugh through trust, integrity and zest, all for the glory of God.”   In looking at my statement, the first four value concepts are verbs, words of action: free, grow, serve and laugh. The last three are nouns: trust integrity and zest.  The last carries purpose. What verbs are in your Value Statement, what are the nouns and what is the purpose?

Action Time.

Let’s take some time to briefly experience your Value Statement at work to help in the next step, developing vision for the future. If your value or vision statement has verbs in it, take some time to look back over some of the most fond memories and events you have experienced. These may have occurred through pure chance or they may have been planned. It may have been a time when events caused your mental light to come on (some would call that an epiphany!) or you just did something out of pure intuition, it turned out well and you experienced a great sense of satisfaction. Write a few paragraphs about the event, the things you did in the process and the results. In this journaling, write down some of the emotions you felt. Now consider the process through the lens of your Value statement. How did they line up? What was the thought or action process that brought you into and out of this event? Was your focus such that all the events around you were blocked out and you were in the pure flow of it? As you write down a few of these events and consider them, are there any common elements that were part of these experiences? If so, what are they? I would look forward to hearing from you understanding what you developed. We are making some good progress.
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Upgrade Your Life: Achieve More in 2015 with this Mindset

in the clouds, thrive in life, goal setting, achieving goals, mindset

Upgrade Your Life: Achieve More in 2015 with this Mindset

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In preparing to write the blogs for this month, I looked back at the blog for January of 2014. As we are starting a New Year, dealing with the years goals is often appropriate and looking back on the goals from last year as well. So here is reporting time. Last year, there were goals set in the spiritual, mental, relational, physical and recreational side.
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 So here goes.

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 On the spiritual side, I focused on reading one book of the Bible at least once a month and from different versions as well as reading a commentary on that book. I can boast that I achieved my goal. The book I chose was the book of Matthew. I have read it multiple times and am finishing a commentary today by an author who lived in the 1800s. There are a variety of things that have jumped out at me regarding my faith and I have found this very rewarding. I hope to focus on one book again in 2015 and continue the study of the person of Jesus.
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On the mental side, my goal was to read one book a week. Success again. I have had the opportunity of going through some 55 books in a fairly broad range of topics and hopefully have learned and put into practice some of the things I have read. The goal for this year is the same. I am also taking courses to become certified as a Life and Academic Coach and should be finished mid year.
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On the relational side, I will admit falling down. I had a goal to observe the body language of those around me so as to be more sensitive to their needs. I didn’t do well on this one and am going to pursue it again this year.

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On the physical side, my goal was to maintain an exercise routine and lose a few pounds. Partial success. I have maintained the routine and added to it by riding my bike 2 hours each Saturday morning before the rest of my family gets up. I failed to lose the pounds. Goal is to maintain that routine.

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On the recreational side, I had hoped to become familiar with Bach. No go. Had good intentions but failed to follow through by reviewing the goal and setting up times to do it. Goal for 2015 on the recreation side is to go paragliding at least once and start to learn about this fantastic sport. (I have a secret desire to fly and this is as close as I think I will get to it!) So off we go.

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Action Time.

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What about your goals? If you are considering setting goals for the year, consider the areas I have mentioned. I would have you consider goals that are dependent solely on your activity. For example, if you are a student, consider setting goals for progressing in how you learn and not on the grades you earn. Grades are dependent on your efforts and the input of your teacher. You can control your efforts. Your grade may be dependent on a teacher’s opinion. That is something you can’t control. If you are in business, set your goals on activities and adjust the activities to meet the employers’ requirements and/or your personal career goals. If you are a parent, set goals for the activities you want to do and the lessons you desire to teach.

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The mindset is to do your part. Your personal identity or achievement shouldn’t be dependent on the results.   Write them down, carry them with you and review regularly. I would look forward to hearing some of the goals you set and working with you to be accountable toward reaching them.
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better to give than to recieve

How Giving Helps Your Self-Esteem


better to give than to recieve

How Giving Helps Your Self-Esteem

This week we celebrate Thanksgiving. This is one national holiday that is somewhat unique to our heritage and values as a nation. A psychologist in the San Francisco Bay area believes that we develop self-esteem, not by having people tell us how good we are but rather by putting forth the effort to help someone else and then feeling pride and value in what we have done. Perhaps that’s what Jesus meant when He said “It’s better to give then to receive.” Now, I ain’t gonna preach a sermon so don’t close up just yet.
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In celebrating Thanksgiving, what’s say we combine the Thanksgiving theme and the giving mindset to kill two turkeys with one stone (Two birds, one stone… get it?).
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Think back over the last few years and think about some of the people that have had a positive impact on your life. Now, take a few minutes to write a short letter to them about what they did and how it has impacted you since then. Now, call them up and tell them you want to meet with them. Don’t tell them why. Tell them it will only take a few minutes as you know they are busy. When you get there, after a little chit chat, let them know you have something you would like to share with them and read your note. Give them a small certificate for being ______ (you fill in the blank). Thank them verbally, wish them a Happy Thanksgiving and be on your way.
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Action Time

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Last week, I showed you a chart taken from a book called, MOJO. It listed some concepts for Professional MOJO and Personal MOJO and was in a chart format. After doing the Thanksgiving Esteem, take a minute and score yourself on the Professional MOJO and the Personal MOJO. Look at your score. Now, are you glad you did it? What types of short-term benefits did it offer? How about the long-term benefits? How did this stuff impact you? Are those the type of things you want to be known for?   If so, how can you incorporate that into your daily routine? After you try this, let me know what happens and what you are going to do about it in the future.

 

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Power through Storytelling

the power of great story telling

The Power of Great Storytelling

How you can you recreate your message using storytelling?

That had been a long day. Many patients had come to see Dr. Jess. One had a leg all swollen up, another had a fever, some had eye problems, and that lady, well, we never knew her problem. The line seemed like it would never end but it did. Dr. Jess dealt with each one, prescribing just the right remedy, taking care of them right there and then. It was amazing to see him at work and the smile on their faces when they left.
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We all needed a break after that day. It had been a long week. Pete, a fisherman, had a small sail boat docked down at the lake. Jim had a cabin on the other side of the lake. The whole office, even Dr. Jess (he often went on short vacations with us, you know), climbed in and off we went.
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All was well, at first. The lake was quiet and the wind just right.  We should have been there in a couple of hours. Dr. Jess sat toward the back of the boat and fell asleep, fast asleep. He must have been really drained.
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We started joking and laughing, sort of loud, loosening up after a hard day.  He, Dr. Jess, I mean, he was really out. He usually joked and teased with the best of us and always had stories of his own to tell. But tonight, for him, lights out. He just sort of sat there, leaning on the side of the boat, lost in sleep, his body rolling gently with the waves.
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Then it hit. A wind from the south came like a blast; the lake, it became foaming walls of water, driving the boat like a leaf in a hurricane. Water came in from all directions. We were all drenched. A couple of us quickly tried to row, others tried bailing water, all were panicked, except Dr. Jess. I got a glimpse of him. He was soaked from head to toe, water splashing on him all the time but he was still asleep, I mean hard asleep. I couldn’t believe it. Wind roaring, water flying, boat pitching. How could he sleep through all this?
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Pete and John (they’re some of the physicians’ assistants, you know) started shaking him, I mean really shaking him, panic kind of shaking. I couldn’t hear what they said, I can only imagine. He was standing now. His look wasn’t panicked though. It was sort of calm. Then I saw his mouth move. I couldn’t hear because of all the wind but I saw him say “Peace.” He no sooner moved his lips and roaring stopped. Then I heard him quiet but forceful like say, “Be Still.” He motioned to the waters with his hands. The lake turned to glass. I mean right that moment. Whenever I think about it, well it’s still hard to believe.
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That water was smooth, smooth as glass and the air, quiet peaceful like. It’s still hard to believe.

Dr. Jess received a call from his father and needed to go back and work on their family ranch. His father owns a construction company and wanted Dr Jess to work on some homes they had in mind for their staff. They’re generous that way. He left us to manage the office. We hired some more Physician Assistants and opened some more offices. It’s a pretty big operation now. We email Dr. Jess quite regular and he gets back to us. Sometimes it’s a bit delayed but he always gets back. It is always good to hear from him. Not quite the same as when he was here, though. I sure do remember that day, just like it was yesterday.

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I wanted to share with you my latest work from a current storytelling class.  It is true that one can more eloquently express a point or principle through the power of storytelling. Well? Does this story resonate with you? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

 

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Toddler learning to walk

What You can Learn from a Toddler About Achieving a Goal

Toddler learning to walk

What You can Learn from a Toddler About Achieving a Goal

 

Have you ever noticed the issues involved with a baby learning to walk? I mean, really? Here are some things I observe. First, the distance down is relatively short. Second, they are fairly light so any downward impact is relatively small. Third, their body tissue is flexible and soft, less susceptible to any great damage. Next, they are surrounded with examples of successful walkers whom they observe constantly. Lastly, they are undaunted by the task. They try over and over again, making large mistakes at first while programming their hard drives with small bites of muscle memory.   Then the mistakes are less and less until they have mastered the whole process, one they will use for the rest of their life. All the while, they are enthusiastically and joyously pursuing the goal, usually with the smiling and loving support of walkers with varying levels of experience around them.
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Action Time!

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When you want to take on a new task, surround yourself with experience of all levels and watch. Focus on the process. Expect mistakes, usually big ones at first. Understand that the size of the mistakes will lessen over time. In the beginning, use material that can easily and inexpensively be replaced until you are ready for the finished product. Have people close at hand, who have experienced similar challenges, survived and will encourage you forward. Ignore the unwilling or those who only want to crawl or sit. Chase after it with gusto and choose not to give up. Enjoy the journey. What strides are next? I would look forward to hearing about your next stroll.
That was short and sweet! (The last blog was rather lengthy!)
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How to Become More Creative & Innovative

The Secret to Becoming More Creative and Innovative

How to Become More Creative & Innovative

How to Become More Creative and Innovative

The battle is a small skirmish between two neighboring tribes.  One tribe fought with spears, the other with bows and arrows. The tribe with arrows had discovered a potion that if placed on the tip of the arrow, would decommission the victim.  This potion came from vegetation they fed to their goats.  While it made humans sick, the goats enjoyed the roughage. The enemy tribe knew the potion wasn’t fatal if dealt with quickly.  
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The battling issue was relatively insignificant yet people are launching deadly spearsand arrows at one another. One of the great warriors was shot with an arrow laced with potion.  As he stands with the arrow in his leg, his loud curses halt the skirmish.  The numbing pain of the potion streamed through the strong body of this great warrior. Believing the wound to be fatal, he demands to look the enemy who shot this deadly arrow in the eye. A weak puny warrior steps forward as the perpetrator. The great warrior wails his condition and villianizes his opponent, demanding to know how and why he could do such a horrific act and especially to this great warrior.  Don’t they know who he is?  As he lay dying, cursing his fate, in his last breath, he demands an apology from the perpetrator. He is gone. His fellow warriors wail their loss.  The enemy goes back home, mocking the foolishness of their enemy, lifting this meager warrior on their shoulders; they take pride in the success of the battle. (How is that for drama?)
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In the same skirmish, a few bushes down, another of the tribesmen suffers a similar wound.  In all the commotion surrounding the great warrior, this warrior quickly pulled the arrow from his side. Having witnessed the effects of this potion in a skirmish between different tribes, this warrior had discovered a neutralizing remedy.  It was madeof some other vegetation and saliva from a goat. (He read tea leaves a lot and discovered the answer one day while relaxing, sipping tea and reading the leaves.) This observant warrior quickly retreats to his remedy stash in the pouch he cared just incase and treats the wound.  He survived.  His fellow warriors are amazed at his recovery.  They are willing to pay any amount to buy this mysterious solution.  Our survivor starts to mass produce the potion, builds a pharmaceutical company,employees his fellow tribesman to positions of great responsibility and industry, disarms the enemy and hires them at minimum wage to swab the throats of goats.
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Action Time.

Well, not all the pieces of the story fit perfectly.  It was fun making it up. Two types of warriors.  Ones who bemoan their state, minor or major that it may be, fall victim to some action and are decommissioned from the joys of life.  Others deal with the circumstances.  They see and come to know the problem.  They disarm it and use their experience to benefit themselves and others.  What is your problem?  What experiences or relationships do you have that can help develop a solution?  What actions are you going to take to resolve it?  How might those actions benefit you or others around you in the future? When are you going to deal with it?  I would look forward to hearing about your potions and the arrows you pull out.   

 

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