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Train Yourself to Override Negative Thoughts with One Brain Exercise

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Train Yourself to Override Negative Thoughts with One Brain Exercise

There is a section of psychology that focuses on rewards. Most of us are familiar with the process that a psychologist used to train dogs. Pavlov used a treat to reward a dog for accomplishing a task. In the process of giving the dog the treat, he would add some audible command. Eventually the dog would mentally transfer the reward with the command. The end result is the dog responded to the command without the reward. The poor dog would get to the point of drooling at the command yet never get the treat.
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We do the same thing. We quickly mentally associate something with some physical event. As an example, when you throw up after eating some food, next time you see that food, you mentally revert back to the bad experience and refuse the food. It may have been your favorite and the event had nothing to do with the food but you turn it down.
Here’s the big deal. You can choose to eat the food anyway and continue to enjoy that tasty morsel. After a while, your brain will stop reminding you of the bad deal. You can choose to overwrite a distasteful event with something pleasurable. Or you can yield to what your brain is telling you and miss out on the benefits and mentally reinforce that wrong association.

Action time.

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You can use this deal to your benefit. Think of one of the most positive experiences you had. For me it is skydiving. Now, associate that with something important to you, some value you want to remember. Work hard to mentally associate these two things together. Next, take this association and connect it to some small physical action. An easy one is to pinch the skin between your thumb and index finger. Mentally keep working these three associations together. Some call this process setting an anchor or cue.
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After you have set this cue, think of something all together different; say the last two numbers of your phone number.  Now, quickly do the cue. See if the mental image doesn’t come back and override the distraction. This is a great process.
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Why bother? Well, next time you get into a stressful situation, use the cue to override the stress to get back to where you mentally want to be. Check it out! I would look forward to hearing your cue and how you use it. I would enjoy working with you to use cueing and other mental exercises to help you accelerate you being all you have been created to be.

 

 

 

 

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What You can Learn from a Toddler About Achieving a Goal

Toddler learning to walk

What You can Learn from a Toddler About Achieving a Goal

 

Have you ever noticed the issues involved with a baby learning to walk? I mean, really? Here are some things I observe. First, the distance down is relatively short. Second, they are fairly light so any downward impact is relatively small. Third, their body tissue is flexible and soft, less susceptible to any great damage. Next, they are surrounded with examples of successful walkers whom they observe constantly. Lastly, they are undaunted by the task. They try over and over again, making large mistakes at first while programming their hard drives with small bites of muscle memory.   Then the mistakes are less and less until they have mastered the whole process, one they will use for the rest of their life. All the while, they are enthusiastically and joyously pursuing the goal, usually with the smiling and loving support of walkers with varying levels of experience around them.
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Action Time!

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When you want to take on a new task, surround yourself with experience of all levels and watch. Focus on the process. Expect mistakes, usually big ones at first. Understand that the size of the mistakes will lessen over time. In the beginning, use material that can easily and inexpensively be replaced until you are ready for the finished product. Have people close at hand, who have experienced similar challenges, survived and will encourage you forward. Ignore the unwilling or those who only want to crawl or sit. Chase after it with gusto and choose not to give up. Enjoy the journey. What strides are next? I would look forward to hearing about your next stroll.
That was short and sweet! (The last blog was rather lengthy!)
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The One Thing You Should Do Before Heading out to College

The One Thing You Should Do Before Heading out to College

Preparing to Leave for College, Do this One thing First

The day has come or at least it is coming soon. You have been accepted to one of the colleges you have applied to and your travel date is just around the corner or you have been in school for a few years and will shortly be leaving for the last year or two of school. For most of the readers of this blog, you have reached the age of majority and are considered adults. While you may yet be on your parents health insurance plan, decisions about your health are considered your own and you may be the one making decisions for your own care. That sounds really cool and is part of the road to adulthood. Congratulations!!
There is a small issue.
There may be some situations where important medical decisions need to be made and you are not physically able to make them. You may be a few hundred or thousands of miles from home and in a different state with different rules as to the age of majority and therefore the release of medical information.
Ouch (literally!). What are you to do?

Action Time.

This isn’t a pleasant thought but an ounce of preparation can be worth a pound of cure. Now, don’t think this is legal advice, cause I can’t give that. What I do know is that due to a law abbreviated as HIPPA, if a student goes into the campus health clinic, you most likely will be asked to sign a form so the medical office can release medical information to anyone requesting it, including mom or dad.
Now, to keep your parents from major grief and lots of yelling over the phone at someone who really can’t do anything (they can hang up!), you can be a thoughtful kid. Contact your College Health Clinic and ask them to email you a medical release form. This may be specific to that school or a more general form that can be used anywhere. Read the thing and if appropriate, sign it and have an adult or notary witness you doing so. Make a copy and give it to the responsible adult.
 An alternative is to go to a site, www.caringinfo.org. This site provides state specific Advanced Directive forms that you can print and complete. It is a heavy-duty legal document and therefore, really serious stuff, so be sure to treat it that way. After discussing it with your parents or guardian, take the appropriate actions and measures to deal with the topic. Once done, you shouldn’t have to worry about it. I don’t like being heavy but, well, that is the world we live in. If you have any thoughts, I would look forward to hearing from you.
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How to Set Goals NOT Resolutions

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How to Thrive and Grow in 2014

5 Areas to Consider When Setting Goals

The New Year is here and we are already one week into it!  In the mind of a child, days seem to take forever; distant events feel like they will never get here.  For the active, busy adult, time flies by with tomorrow being yesterday before today has started (Isn’t that a great one liner?). Here’s something to consider at the start of the year…

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Breaking down a project to complete it

breaking down a project to complete it

Label each stage of a project

Labeling Your Steps in a Project Will Help You Complete it

Break it Down, Label it, Complete it!

One fascinating part of our mental workings is placing a label on something.  As I was thinking about this blog, my thinking was drawn back to the Garden of Eden in the Bible and God’s command to Adam to give animals a name.  Labeling is somewhat inherit in our nature.  We do it all the time.  It is also a tool that provides focus for us to move through the details of life.  We label stages of human life as being babies, toddlers, adolescents, teenagers, etc.  We have labels for diseases no matter how miniscule they may be.  When an illness is offered a name, it allows us to understand that others have had similar symptoms and we are not alone.  We can be aided by knowing that there may be a remedy.  Someone has traveled this path before.  It can serve as a temporary distraction which may allow some level of healing to start.
Identifying a personal strength in a person, giving them a name, sharing the name with the person, coming to an agreement and them offering reinforcement over time is a means of building additional intimacy.  An example would be the names we give to the person we are romantically involved with like “Sugar” or “Toots” (do these date me or what?).  Bottom line is, we all use and need labels or names and the structure, distraction, and comfort they provide.

Action time!

If you are considering a project or some change, consider labeling where you are in the process.  Here is a cycle you might consider,  Contemplate, Research, Action, Sustaining, and Terminate.  Take a moment to think of where you are for this project.  Give it a name and write it in your journal along with some steps that are necessary to move you into the next stage.  Set some time parameters on when you want to accomplish those steps then act on them.  When at the next stage, what’s next?  Take a minute and share with me the project, the stage, the steps you are going to take and when.  I would look forward to following up with you and helping you see it happen.
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Why happy thoughts before bed can mean happy next day

What you think before bed matters

Using before bedtime time more effectively

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Have you noticed that when you go to sleep ruminating over a problem, often you have some resolution in the morning?  Our subconscious continues to work through the night while we are resting and comes up with a solution.
In this example of using your natural processes, consider your process just before you go to bed. Some choose to watch a video or TV program until just before bed time.  The way our brain is wired, the visual stimulation of a TV causes the brain to be in high gear and it takes time to wind down.  As way of a personal example in a similar vein, I had the opportunity of driving a go-cart on a track and was racing with some younger and lighter drivers.  Being competitive, I wanted to out drive them during the race.  I was focused and worked the track and gas as best I could.   I then had to drive home in a regular car in normal traffic on regular streets.  The freeways of San Diego aren’t quite as competitive as that go-cart track, but my brain was still in go-cart mode. I had to put significant effort into refocusing at a slower pace to get home without lighting up a Christmas tree on a patrol cars’ roof.  I hope you get my point here.

Action Time!

Why not try using this ingrained skill to accomplish some desired results.     For example, try spending 15 or 20 minutes prior to bed focusing on something soothing, relaxing or joyful.  Get quietly but deeply involved in it.  Then check your mood the next morning.  Keep track of how rested you were and your mental mindset. Do it for a few nights and make short notes in your journal.  Follow up with a few nights of some rapid pace mental activity and see what you are like the following mornings.  Record a brief note of what you feel.  Compare the results.  Mold your future activity to correspond to what you learned.  You are the scientist and the experiment all wrapped into one.  Let me know what you do and the results.  I would look forward to hearing from you.
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A Healthier Way to Vent

Why Venting is bad for your brain

Find Your Alternative to a Venting Rant

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I recently picked up a copy of Tony Dungys’ book, Quiet Strength.  (I mentioned earlier my year’s goal is 26 books. This is #22 and it’s July :).  Tony tells a story of his youth and his venting about a referees’ call while playing in a basketball game.  He offers the nature of the conversation with his dad that pursued.   Dad: Did it change the call?  Answer:  No. Dad: Did it add anything to the situation?  Answer: No, but it felt good. His dad, Dr. Dungy, offers some additional comments that I will leave for you to enjoy when you pick up the book.  Psychologists indicate that venting actually has a negative impact on our brain.  Once we choose to use the venting process, we will choose that path again and often with more intensity in order to achieve a similar level of satisfaction. Other aggressive actions not directed at the immediate issue (like physical exercise) have the same impact on the brain as does the venting process.  When we get into that mold, our brain will take us there over and over again.

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Action Time!

Think about the last time you vented about something.  Is the event something that reoccurs?   If so, what is it?  Record what is setting you off to look for a pattern.  Also, based on your values, how do you want to respond?  Make up a short plan as to what actions you want to take and then practice them a few times by yourself and then with someone else.  Practice a few more times.  Next time, when the issue comes up, go into this autopilot routine and avoid the “vent.”  How does it feel?  Isn’t it nice to be in flow and going down your path to goals rather than venting off course, letting someone or thing control where you go?  Each time you win a small battle like treat yourself to a small reward.  So now let me hear from you. What is  your situation? What plan will you come up with?  Do you need some input?
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