Going the Distance in Life: Creating Something Bigger than Yourself

Going the Distance in Life

Going the Distance in Life: Creating Something Bigger than Yourself

Going the Distance in Life

Creating Something Bigger than Yourself

There are a number of ways to accomplish things. Before the task is done, there are a few steps. You have to figure out what you want to do, have a plan to do it, determine any materials necessary to complete the task, start the process, modify when necessary and then complete the process. There may be some other steps but I think you get the idea. The big question is “What is the benefit?” The benefit part always has some type of reward. It can be material gain, avoidance of discomfort and/or pain or just for the joy of it.
When thinking about a career, we often look at the material gain part. How much will it pay? What is the benefit package? What type of working environment is it in? All of these are based on certain conditions and considered “Conditional Motivations.” In looking into careers, these conditional motivations are one of the elements of choosing a career and what type of preparation we are going to make to be successful.
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Conditional Motivation is great in the short run. Yet when challenges come or the process becomes difficult or boring, there has to be some additional motivation or we crash and burn. “Crash and burn” comes in various ways, underproduction or burnout being two obvious results.
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The alternative is an internal motivation for a purpose larger than you, that larger purpose being something that you find fulfilling and worth the effort. Many people choose pretty difficult tasks in nasty circumstances yet they complete them and in the end enjoy the results. That type of motivation is considered “Intrinsic Motivation.” Conditional Motivation is good for short-term rewards along the way. The benefit is lost once received and spent. Intrinsic motivation is a stronger motivation tool because the benefit is never used up. It can be a strong memory or seeing the results played out on an ongoing basis.

Action Time.

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If you are a student, take some time to consider your source of motivation. Grades on a test or in a class are short term rewards and fade after received. They are great “Conditional Motivators.” They help along the way. Try thinking about the long-term reason for your studies and preparation.
Look for the big long-term purpose. For the visual types, try making a picture of the results and post it in an obvious place where you see it every day. For the auditory type, try making a short recording, put it to music and listen to it on a regular basis. For the hands on learner, make some physical object you can hold to remind you of the end you are going after.
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When challenged, revisit your Intrinsic Motivator to help go the distance. I would look forward to hearing what your motivators are and what tools you use to remind you of where you are going.

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Turning your Vision Statement to Actionable Goals

Turning your Vision Statement into Actionable Goals

Turning your Vision Statement to Actionable Goals

Turning your Vision Statement into Actionable Goals

The tunnel is getting brighter. Since January, we have been working through developing a values/purpose statement with the ultimate goal of developing a vision for what we would like our future path to look like. No guarantees that it will be like what we envision. The goal is to have a vision for the bigger picture.
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In my personal values statement, I have listed, first, some action words (serve, grow and laugh) then some nouns (trust, integrity and zest) to generate action and finally a purpose (for the glory of God) to fulfill the purpose of living the way I do. I offered the example of putting personal insights into the action words and how they were important to me. The next step I took was to put some meaning into the action words and the purpose to come up with a few meaningful paragraphs describing my value statement.
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So, here is what I would suggest as the next step. With a broad brush, put down the key goals that you have for the next year, 3 years, 5 years and 10 years for both your personal and professional life. Don’t get too specific. Choose to list out the biggies for each of these time periods. You can deal with the steps on getting there later. Once you have listed these out, work on the common threads between these goals. For me, they were the relationships I have with family, friends and business acquaintances, then the maintenance of existing resources and the future purchase of new resources and finally, the areas of recreation that I would like to become involved in. With these as a list, I would suggest developing paragraphs that summarizes the core of your values when incorporated into the goals you have set for the next 10 years. How about them apples?
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This probably will take some thought and a few runs at it. In the end, I hope to have developed a rich and full vision of what and how I hope to approach the next years that have been allotted to me.

Action Time.

There are many ways to make these meaningful statements. With the values, I found it easier to look through a list and find the most meaningful concepts. Others would suggest you write down the values that come to your mind in a 30 second time period. I offered some additional steps in the process to design some vision for the future. I am not suggesting this is the only way.   It is one way I have found to be reasonable. The goal is to Just Do It. Having gone through the process, the challenge is to live it out. I would look forward to what you develop. If you wish, I would enjoy looking over your shoulder and hold you accountable to getting it done and then living it out. That is what a good coach does.

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Create Your Personal Vision Statement

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How to Create Your Vision Statement

Last week, we went through a process of figuring out and prioritizing your values. May not be perfect but it is well within the ball park and a reasonable starting point. Agreed?
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Next step is to come up with a “Value Statement” that is unique to you which incorporates the values that are most important you. So take the values and come up with a short, concise statement that really rings your bell loud and clear. Only put down the values and their uses that you can’t live without. Try and make the statement as concise as possible. Often, the shorter it is, the easier it is to remember and the more powerful it is in your life.
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Here is what I came up with for myself.
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The values I determined that were most important to me are Independence/Freedom, Service/Trust, Honest/Integrity, Accomplishment/Production/Zest, Growth, Humor, and Adventure. My value statement in its current form is: Free to serve, grow & laugh through trust, integrity and zest, all for the glory of God. I am trying to hone it down further but each of those values are things I personally find important and want to use in various parts of my life. So, I would challenge you to have some fun with it. Wrestle with it until it is as sharp and meaningful as you can get then live by it. That is the challenging part!

Action Time.

Developing a “Value Statement” can be one of the central parts of a person’s life or the life of a business. If taken to heart, it can keep us on our personal track when making decisions and reviewing actions that we have taken. When you have come up with your own personal “Vision Statement,” you can choose to share it with others or keep it very personal. Steven Covey, a professional who was very respected during his lifetime, had a Value Statement that was very personal and he chose not to share it with the general public. Others are more willing to do so and ask their friends to hold them accountable to this statement of their closely held values. I would look forward to hearing about your processes and what you come up with. By the way, this is part of the process I would use in helping people work through their career and college planning. If you would like some help and encouragement in working through the process, I would look forward to being your coach!

 

 

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Get your Professional and Personal MOJO

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Get your Professional and Personal MOJO

If you want to learn how to fish, watch and learn form a great fisherman. If you want to get better in a sport, you learn and practice under a good coach. Concept is learning from and emulating the habits of pros.
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I recently had to opportunity to read MOJO by Marshall Goldsmith. Marshall is recognized as one of the best executive coaches in the market place. This is a concise little book that covers a lot of territory in a few pages. There are lots of great ideas and you can pick up some of them from his site, www.mojothebook.com .
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There is one I would have you consider. Here is his chart (well, it is my chart with his stuff!).
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Professional MOJO                                     Personal MOJO
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So, what do you do with it? Well, every day, list out the activities when you do them. Then, grade yourself on a scale from 1 to 10 (Be honest as you are the only one that is going to see it.). Try doing this for a few days or a couple of weeks. I am betting you will see a pattern in both the activities and the grade you give yourself.
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Action Time.

So, here’s the deal. Check out the activities and your grade. Are the activities something that benefits you in the short run? How do they impact you or others in the long run? If they are of benefit in both the long and short run, yet you score low, what are some ways that you can increase your scores? If they benefit you in the short run but not in the long run, are there better uses of your time that are more satisfying and help you reach more important goals? What steps are you going to take to change your scores or the activities? Try making a list in your journal and sharing them with a few close friends. Post them someplace you can see them to remind yourself. Now, put a date on your calendar to revisit what you wanted to accomplish. On that date, write me a note and let me know what has happened and your good success. If you want a coach to help you flesh these out and keep you accountable, we can do that too. I would look forward to hearing from you.
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How to Effectively Stay Focused on Task at Hand

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How to stay laser focused with a task at hand

We live in a somewhat rural part of San Diego. I enjoy growing fruit trees and anything that bears fruit. I figure if I am going to water them, I ought to get something I can eat out of the effort and expense. Well, with rural living come gophers. While they serve a useful function in loosening the soil, they raise havoc on my produce.
Solution: Cats. Outside cats. Cats stalk and eat gophers. There are a few purposes for cats that I enjoy. This is one. (No cat jokes here!)
If you have ever watched cats stalk a gopher or bird or other small critters (and sometimes other cats in play) their focus is inspiring. Their whole being is intent on the action. So intent are they on the task that they are oblivious to what is going on around them. (Want some fun?) Quietly sneak up on a stalking cat with a rolling video and spook them. (The video might go viral!)
Great athletes play their game in the same fashion. Baseball outfielders are often so focused on the path of the ball, they will collide with the outfield wall in chasing a fly ball. So, too, are football receivers as they run their pass routes. It is the capacity for sharp focus that makes them great.
Focus is a learned skill. People who listen well have a great capacity to focus on the conversation. Various professions will get into a zone where their focus allows them to accomplish effectively the task at hand.

Action Time!

To help develop the focus skill, lie down for a few minutes and try to focus on your breathing. Might sound odd, maybe even dumb, but check it out. Lay down someplace quiet and quietly breathe. Focus your mind on the in and out of just breathing. The goal here is to go for thirty seconds, maybe a minute without allowing your mind to wander. You can’t think on the test you are having today or the argument you have with your sibling or the date you have tonight. Now, if you focus too well, you might just go to sleep! So there is the challenge. See how you do.
To help develop the skill of focusing, as a thought goes through your mind, label it and let it go. Say it is about a date later today, label it, ”Date thought” and go back to focusing on your breathing. No harm done. When the next thought about something other than breathing comes, label it as well. Back to breathing focus. Goal here is to train your brain to quickly recognize and eliminate distractions as they come and focus on the task you want to accomplish.
Another way to focus your attention is to focus on a task and when a distraction comes, make a small mark on a piece of paper. This is another way to identify the distraction and go back to focus. The recording isn’t to generate a guilt trip on how big time you blow focusing (that would be pretty dumb for something as insignificant as focusing on breathing!). The goal is gaining control of your thoughts, identifying distractions and getting back on task. That is focus. Check it out. Try either of these two every day for a few weeks and see it you can’t reduce the number of mental distractions you experience during the exercise. See if it doesn’t impact your listening and concentration skills. If you are journaling, make a note of your progress over a month and treat yourself for gains.

 

 

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What You can Learn from a Toddler About Achieving a Goal

Toddler learning to walk

What You can Learn from a Toddler About Achieving a Goal

 

Have you ever noticed the issues involved with a baby learning to walk? I mean, really? Here are some things I observe. First, the distance down is relatively short. Second, they are fairly light so any downward impact is relatively small. Third, their body tissue is flexible and soft, less susceptible to any great damage. Next, they are surrounded with examples of successful walkers whom they observe constantly. Lastly, they are undaunted by the task. They try over and over again, making large mistakes at first while programming their hard drives with small bites of muscle memory.   Then the mistakes are less and less until they have mastered the whole process, one they will use for the rest of their life. All the while, they are enthusiastically and joyously pursuing the goal, usually with the smiling and loving support of walkers with varying levels of experience around them.
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Action Time!

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When you want to take on a new task, surround yourself with experience of all levels and watch. Focus on the process. Expect mistakes, usually big ones at first. Understand that the size of the mistakes will lessen over time. In the beginning, use material that can easily and inexpensively be replaced until you are ready for the finished product. Have people close at hand, who have experienced similar challenges, survived and will encourage you forward. Ignore the unwilling or those who only want to crawl or sit. Chase after it with gusto and choose not to give up. Enjoy the journey. What strides are next? I would look forward to hearing about your next stroll.
That was short and sweet! (The last blog was rather lengthy!)
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Go Back to the Basics

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Going Back to the Basics Where Growth Happens

Wanting to have an activity that is serves double duty, I recently enrolled in at a local karate course. The course is offered through a local church and has levels starting at the beginner stage and moving up through the various belts. My desire is to have a routine with both exercise and self-defense. I have also enrolled my 9-year-old daughter so it is a father daughter event. While waiting for the regular class to start, I was in awe of a mother daughter pair going through their practice routines. For me, it was a work of art. Both mother and daughter were moving gracefully in step with one another. While at present, I don’t understand the use of the different moves, I can appreciate the time spent practicing the moves to generate the flow.
 As a beginner, I am in the beginner class. All the other students were quite a few years younger than I (and that is putting it mildly). One of the first steps is coming to attention. The next is the first defense stance. To move from attention to this stance, one holds their left foot still and sweeps and plants their right foot out about shoulder width and moves their arms to about a 90-degree position with fists clenched about a fist distance apart.
The instructor (called “sensei”) is a delightful, patient gal who had attained the level of red belt. Some of the younger boys were anxious to start kicking and doing various moves that I am sure they saw on various movies or TV shows. They first had to learn the first defense stance and that involved moving ONLY their right leg, not their left leg but their right leg. After various attempts to move to this position and detailed instructions on identifying which was their RIGHT leg, we all performed the command correctly. These young students will have to wait another day to perform flying kicks at their opponents.

“To skim over the basics in pursuit of end results can lead to disaster.  In your quest for further improving yourself, be it in sports or scholastics, improvement on the basics has an exponential impact on the final results.”   

Action Time.

The head sensei made the point of getting the basics down well and correctly. He pointed out that some battles were never fought as the combatants observed their opponents simply taking the sitting position in such a precise fashion that to go further was pointless and the outcome predetermined. To skim over the basics in pursuit of end results can lead to disaster. In your quest for further improving yourself, be it in sports or scholastics, improvement on the basics has an exponential impact on the final results. Take a minute to consider one topic that you are working on. What are some of the primal basics that you can focus on to improve? What steps are you going to take to do so? What will you have to do to see improvement? How will these changes improve your process to the final product? As always, I would look forward to hearing about your processes and improvements.

 

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