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Train Yourself to Override Negative Thoughts with One Brain Exercise

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Train Yourself to Override Negative Thoughts with One Brain Exercise

There is a section of psychology that focuses on rewards. Most of us are familiar with the process that a psychologist used to train dogs. Pavlov used a treat to reward a dog for accomplishing a task. In the process of giving the dog the treat, he would add some audible command. Eventually the dog would mentally transfer the reward with the command. The end result is the dog responded to the command without the reward. The poor dog would get to the point of drooling at the command yet never get the treat.
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We do the same thing. We quickly mentally associate something with some physical event. As an example, when you throw up after eating some food, next time you see that food, you mentally revert back to the bad experience and refuse the food. It may have been your favorite and the event had nothing to do with the food but you turn it down.
Here’s the big deal. You can choose to eat the food anyway and continue to enjoy that tasty morsel. After a while, your brain will stop reminding you of the bad deal. You can choose to overwrite a distasteful event with something pleasurable. Or you can yield to what your brain is telling you and miss out on the benefits and mentally reinforce that wrong association.

Action time.

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You can use this deal to your benefit. Think of one of the most positive experiences you had. For me it is skydiving. Now, associate that with something important to you, some value you want to remember. Work hard to mentally associate these two things together. Next, take this association and connect it to some small physical action. An easy one is to pinch the skin between your thumb and index finger. Mentally keep working these three associations together. Some call this process setting an anchor or cue.
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After you have set this cue, think of something all together different; say the last two numbers of your phone number.  Now, quickly do the cue. See if the mental image doesn’t come back and override the distraction. This is a great process.
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Why bother? Well, next time you get into a stressful situation, use the cue to override the stress to get back to where you mentally want to be. Check it out! I would look forward to hearing your cue and how you use it. I would enjoy working with you to use cueing and other mental exercises to help you accelerate you being all you have been created to be.

 

 

 

 

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Turning your Vision Statement to Actionable Goals

Turning your Vision Statement into Actionable Goals

Turning your Vision Statement to Actionable Goals

Turning your Vision Statement into Actionable Goals

The tunnel is getting brighter. Since January, we have been working through developing a values/purpose statement with the ultimate goal of developing a vision for what we would like our future path to look like. No guarantees that it will be like what we envision. The goal is to have a vision for the bigger picture.
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In my personal values statement, I have listed, first, some action words (serve, grow and laugh) then some nouns (trust, integrity and zest) to generate action and finally a purpose (for the glory of God) to fulfill the purpose of living the way I do. I offered the example of putting personal insights into the action words and how they were important to me. The next step I took was to put some meaning into the action words and the purpose to come up with a few meaningful paragraphs describing my value statement.
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So, here is what I would suggest as the next step. With a broad brush, put down the key goals that you have for the next year, 3 years, 5 years and 10 years for both your personal and professional life. Don’t get too specific. Choose to list out the biggies for each of these time periods. You can deal with the steps on getting there later. Once you have listed these out, work on the common threads between these goals. For me, they were the relationships I have with family, friends and business acquaintances, then the maintenance of existing resources and the future purchase of new resources and finally, the areas of recreation that I would like to become involved in. With these as a list, I would suggest developing paragraphs that summarizes the core of your values when incorporated into the goals you have set for the next 10 years. How about them apples?
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This probably will take some thought and a few runs at it. In the end, I hope to have developed a rich and full vision of what and how I hope to approach the next years that have been allotted to me.

Action Time.

There are many ways to make these meaningful statements. With the values, I found it easier to look through a list and find the most meaningful concepts. Others would suggest you write down the values that come to your mind in a 30 second time period. I offered some additional steps in the process to design some vision for the future. I am not suggesting this is the only way.   It is one way I have found to be reasonable. The goal is to Just Do It. Having gone through the process, the challenge is to live it out. I would look forward to what you develop. If you wish, I would enjoy looking over your shoulder and hold you accountable to getting it done and then living it out. That is what a good coach does.

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Upgrade Your Life: Achieve More in 2015 with this Mindset

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Upgrade Your Life: Achieve More in 2015 with this Mindset

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In preparing to write the blogs for this month, I looked back at the blog for January of 2014. As we are starting a New Year, dealing with the years goals is often appropriate and looking back on the goals from last year as well. So here is reporting time. Last year, there were goals set in the spiritual, mental, relational, physical and recreational side.
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 So here goes.

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 On the spiritual side, I focused on reading one book of the Bible at least once a month and from different versions as well as reading a commentary on that book. I can boast that I achieved my goal. The book I chose was the book of Matthew. I have read it multiple times and am finishing a commentary today by an author who lived in the 1800s. There are a variety of things that have jumped out at me regarding my faith and I have found this very rewarding. I hope to focus on one book again in 2015 and continue the study of the person of Jesus.
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On the mental side, my goal was to read one book a week. Success again. I have had the opportunity of going through some 55 books in a fairly broad range of topics and hopefully have learned and put into practice some of the things I have read. The goal for this year is the same. I am also taking courses to become certified as a Life and Academic Coach and should be finished mid year.
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On the relational side, I will admit falling down. I had a goal to observe the body language of those around me so as to be more sensitive to their needs. I didn’t do well on this one and am going to pursue it again this year.

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On the physical side, my goal was to maintain an exercise routine and lose a few pounds. Partial success. I have maintained the routine and added to it by riding my bike 2 hours each Saturday morning before the rest of my family gets up. I failed to lose the pounds. Goal is to maintain that routine.

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On the recreational side, I had hoped to become familiar with Bach. No go. Had good intentions but failed to follow through by reviewing the goal and setting up times to do it. Goal for 2015 on the recreation side is to go paragliding at least once and start to learn about this fantastic sport. (I have a secret desire to fly and this is as close as I think I will get to it!) So off we go.

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Action Time.

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What about your goals? If you are considering setting goals for the year, consider the areas I have mentioned. I would have you consider goals that are dependent solely on your activity. For example, if you are a student, consider setting goals for progressing in how you learn and not on the grades you earn. Grades are dependent on your efforts and the input of your teacher. You can control your efforts. Your grade may be dependent on a teacher’s opinion. That is something you can’t control. If you are in business, set your goals on activities and adjust the activities to meet the employers’ requirements and/or your personal career goals. If you are a parent, set goals for the activities you want to do and the lessons you desire to teach.

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The mindset is to do your part. Your personal identity or achievement shouldn’t be dependent on the results.   Write them down, carry them with you and review regularly. I would look forward to hearing some of the goals you set and working with you to be accountable toward reaching them.
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How to Know What Your Major Should be

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How to Know What Your Major Should Be: Creating a College Plan

A contest was held at a local county fair. The goal of the contest was to guess out the weight of a dressed out ox. A local statistician took the guesses and using simple math found the average of all the guesses provided by the contestants. It was within a few pounds of the actual weight of the ox, some 1800 pounds. No single guess came as close as the average of all the guesses. A similar finding was made when a submarine sank of the east coast. The location of the last radio signal provided the last known location. Time and effort to locate the sub went for naught. Again, a local statistician went to a variety of sources familiar with different aspects of ocean navigation, current strength, submarine fuel conception, etc, and asked them for their best guess. Processing their best guesses, he offered a location for the lost submarine. It was found some 200 yards from the place recommended by our local statistician. Again, this point was better than the closest estimate from any of the best of class professionals helping to find the lost vessel.
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So what’s the deal?
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Obtaining a variety of opinions from various sources and in some fashion blending them together can provide the potential for more reliable results and can lead to viable solutions. I would suggest that it can be a confidence builder when seeking out direction in many of life’s challenges.
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Action Time.
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One of the challenges of going to college is what career path should you go after. Here is what I believe offers a reasonable starting point and is a service we provide. First, you list all the efforts that you would do for free and get a buzz after doing them. Next, we have a sorting process that has the seeker sort out occupations based on most desirable to least desirable. Lastly, we obtain the results from a computer generated career profiling service and list the jobs that the client is most qualified for and is most interested it. There is usually some overlap between the three results. That’s the sweet spot of careers to consider. Next step is to job shadow professionals in those careers. That’s like going on a date! Some you want to see again and again. Others, well not so much.
After going through these steps, you can research what majors support the career and then seek colleges that best fit your career and personal aspirations. Reasonable starting point wouldn’t you say? With college and time being of great value, it makes sense to have a game plan. This is part of the college planning process we make available. I would look forward to hearing from you and helping further your career and college search.
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How Giving Helps Your Self-Esteem


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How Giving Helps Your Self-Esteem

This week we celebrate Thanksgiving. This is one national holiday that is somewhat unique to our heritage and values as a nation. A psychologist in the San Francisco Bay area believes that we develop self-esteem, not by having people tell us how good we are but rather by putting forth the effort to help someone else and then feeling pride and value in what we have done. Perhaps that’s what Jesus meant when He said “It’s better to give then to receive.” Now, I ain’t gonna preach a sermon so don’t close up just yet.
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In celebrating Thanksgiving, what’s say we combine the Thanksgiving theme and the giving mindset to kill two turkeys with one stone (Two birds, one stone… get it?).
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Think back over the last few years and think about some of the people that have had a positive impact on your life. Now, take a few minutes to write a short letter to them about what they did and how it has impacted you since then. Now, call them up and tell them you want to meet with them. Don’t tell them why. Tell them it will only take a few minutes as you know they are busy. When you get there, after a little chit chat, let them know you have something you would like to share with them and read your note. Give them a small certificate for being ______ (you fill in the blank). Thank them verbally, wish them a Happy Thanksgiving and be on your way.
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Action Time

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Last week, I showed you a chart taken from a book called, MOJO. It listed some concepts for Professional MOJO and Personal MOJO and was in a chart format. After doing the Thanksgiving Esteem, take a minute and score yourself on the Professional MOJO and the Personal MOJO. Look at your score. Now, are you glad you did it? What types of short-term benefits did it offer? How about the long-term benefits? How did this stuff impact you? Are those the type of things you want to be known for?   If so, how can you incorporate that into your daily routine? After you try this, let me know what happens and what you are going to do about it in the future.

 

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Get your Professional and Personal MOJO

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Get your Professional and Personal MOJO

If you want to learn how to fish, watch and learn form a great fisherman. If you want to get better in a sport, you learn and practice under a good coach. Concept is learning from and emulating the habits of pros.
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I recently had to opportunity to read MOJO by Marshall Goldsmith. Marshall is recognized as one of the best executive coaches in the market place. This is a concise little book that covers a lot of territory in a few pages. There are lots of great ideas and you can pick up some of them from his site, www.mojothebook.com .
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There is one I would have you consider. Here is his chart (well, it is my chart with his stuff!).
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Professional MOJO                                     Personal MOJO
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M         K         A          C         A          T          H         R         M         L          G         T
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t           o          i           n          t           t           p          w         a          a          a          t
i           w         l           f           h          a          p          a          n          n          t           a
v          l           i           i           e          l           i           r           i           i           i           l
a          e          t           d          n                      n          d          n          n          t
t           d          y          e          t                       e          s          g          g          u
i           g                      n          i                       s                                               d
o          e                      c          c                                                                       e
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So, what do you do with it? Well, every day, list out the activities when you do them. Then, grade yourself on a scale from 1 to 10 (Be honest as you are the only one that is going to see it.). Try doing this for a few days or a couple of weeks. I am betting you will see a pattern in both the activities and the grade you give yourself.
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Action Time.

So, here’s the deal. Check out the activities and your grade. Are the activities something that benefits you in the short run? How do they impact you or others in the long run? If they are of benefit in both the long and short run, yet you score low, what are some ways that you can increase your scores? If they benefit you in the short run but not in the long run, are there better uses of your time that are more satisfying and help you reach more important goals? What steps are you going to take to change your scores or the activities? Try making a list in your journal and sharing them with a few close friends. Post them someplace you can see them to remind yourself. Now, put a date on your calendar to revisit what you wanted to accomplish. On that date, write me a note and let me know what has happened and your good success. If you want a coach to help you flesh these out and keep you accountable, we can do that too. I would look forward to hearing from you.
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How to Become More Creative & Innovative

The Secret to Becoming More Creative and Innovative

How to Become More Creative & Innovative

How to Become More Creative and Innovative

The battle is a small skirmish between two neighboring tribes.  One tribe fought with spears, the other with bows and arrows. The tribe with arrows had discovered a potion that if placed on the tip of the arrow, would decommission the victim.  This potion came from vegetation they fed to their goats.  While it made humans sick, the goats enjoyed the roughage. The enemy tribe knew the potion wasn’t fatal if dealt with quickly.  
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The battling issue was relatively insignificant yet people are launching deadly spearsand arrows at one another. One of the great warriors was shot with an arrow laced with potion.  As he stands with the arrow in his leg, his loud curses halt the skirmish.  The numbing pain of the potion streamed through the strong body of this great warrior. Believing the wound to be fatal, he demands to look the enemy who shot this deadly arrow in the eye. A weak puny warrior steps forward as the perpetrator. The great warrior wails his condition and villianizes his opponent, demanding to know how and why he could do such a horrific act and especially to this great warrior.  Don’t they know who he is?  As he lay dying, cursing his fate, in his last breath, he demands an apology from the perpetrator. He is gone. His fellow warriors wail their loss.  The enemy goes back home, mocking the foolishness of their enemy, lifting this meager warrior on their shoulders; they take pride in the success of the battle. (How is that for drama?)
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In the same skirmish, a few bushes down, another of the tribesmen suffers a similar wound.  In all the commotion surrounding the great warrior, this warrior quickly pulled the arrow from his side. Having witnessed the effects of this potion in a skirmish between different tribes, this warrior had discovered a neutralizing remedy.  It was madeof some other vegetation and saliva from a goat. (He read tea leaves a lot and discovered the answer one day while relaxing, sipping tea and reading the leaves.) This observant warrior quickly retreats to his remedy stash in the pouch he cared just incase and treats the wound.  He survived.  His fellow warriors are amazed at his recovery.  They are willing to pay any amount to buy this mysterious solution.  Our survivor starts to mass produce the potion, builds a pharmaceutical company,employees his fellow tribesman to positions of great responsibility and industry, disarms the enemy and hires them at minimum wage to swab the throats of goats.
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Action Time.

Well, not all the pieces of the story fit perfectly.  It was fun making it up. Two types of warriors.  Ones who bemoan their state, minor or major that it may be, fall victim to some action and are decommissioned from the joys of life.  Others deal with the circumstances.  They see and come to know the problem.  They disarm it and use their experience to benefit themselves and others.  What is your problem?  What experiences or relationships do you have that can help develop a solution?  What actions are you going to take to resolve it?  How might those actions benefit you or others around you in the future? When are you going to deal with it?  I would look forward to hearing about your potions and the arrows you pull out.   

 

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