Going the Distance in Life: Creating Something Bigger than Yourself

Going the Distance in Life

Going the Distance in Life: Creating Something Bigger than Yourself

Going the Distance in Life

Creating Something Bigger than Yourself

There are a number of ways to accomplish things. Before the task is done, there are a few steps. You have to figure out what you want to do, have a plan to do it, determine any materials necessary to complete the task, start the process, modify when necessary and then complete the process. There may be some other steps but I think you get the idea. The big question is “What is the benefit?” The benefit part always has some type of reward. It can be material gain, avoidance of discomfort and/or pain or just for the joy of it.
When thinking about a career, we often look at the material gain part. How much will it pay? What is the benefit package? What type of working environment is it in? All of these are based on certain conditions and considered “Conditional Motivations.” In looking into careers, these conditional motivations are one of the elements of choosing a career and what type of preparation we are going to make to be successful.
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Conditional Motivation is great in the short run. Yet when challenges come or the process becomes difficult or boring, there has to be some additional motivation or we crash and burn. “Crash and burn” comes in various ways, underproduction or burnout being two obvious results.
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The alternative is an internal motivation for a purpose larger than you, that larger purpose being something that you find fulfilling and worth the effort. Many people choose pretty difficult tasks in nasty circumstances yet they complete them and in the end enjoy the results. That type of motivation is considered “Intrinsic Motivation.” Conditional Motivation is good for short-term rewards along the way. The benefit is lost once received and spent. Intrinsic motivation is a stronger motivation tool because the benefit is never used up. It can be a strong memory or seeing the results played out on an ongoing basis.

Action Time.

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If you are a student, take some time to consider your source of motivation. Grades on a test or in a class are short term rewards and fade after received. They are great “Conditional Motivators.” They help along the way. Try thinking about the long-term reason for your studies and preparation.
Look for the big long-term purpose. For the visual types, try making a picture of the results and post it in an obvious place where you see it every day. For the auditory type, try making a short recording, put it to music and listen to it on a regular basis. For the hands on learner, make some physical object you can hold to remind you of the end you are going after.
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When challenged, revisit your Intrinsic Motivator to help go the distance. I would look forward to hearing what your motivators are and what tools you use to remind you of where you are going.

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Turning your Vision Statement to Actionable Goals

Turning your Vision Statement into Actionable Goals

Turning your Vision Statement to Actionable Goals

Turning your Vision Statement into Actionable Goals

The tunnel is getting brighter. Since January, we have been working through developing a values/purpose statement with the ultimate goal of developing a vision for what we would like our future path to look like. No guarantees that it will be like what we envision. The goal is to have a vision for the bigger picture.
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In my personal values statement, I have listed, first, some action words (serve, grow and laugh) then some nouns (trust, integrity and zest) to generate action and finally a purpose (for the glory of God) to fulfill the purpose of living the way I do. I offered the example of putting personal insights into the action words and how they were important to me. The next step I took was to put some meaning into the action words and the purpose to come up with a few meaningful paragraphs describing my value statement.
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So, here is what I would suggest as the next step. With a broad brush, put down the key goals that you have for the next year, 3 years, 5 years and 10 years for both your personal and professional life. Don’t get too specific. Choose to list out the biggies for each of these time periods. You can deal with the steps on getting there later. Once you have listed these out, work on the common threads between these goals. For me, they were the relationships I have with family, friends and business acquaintances, then the maintenance of existing resources and the future purchase of new resources and finally, the areas of recreation that I would like to become involved in. With these as a list, I would suggest developing paragraphs that summarizes the core of your values when incorporated into the goals you have set for the next 10 years. How about them apples?
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This probably will take some thought and a few runs at it. In the end, I hope to have developed a rich and full vision of what and how I hope to approach the next years that have been allotted to me.

Action Time.

There are many ways to make these meaningful statements. With the values, I found it easier to look through a list and find the most meaningful concepts. Others would suggest you write down the values that come to your mind in a 30 second time period. I offered some additional steps in the process to design some vision for the future. I am not suggesting this is the only way.   It is one way I have found to be reasonable. The goal is to Just Do It. Having gone through the process, the challenge is to live it out. I would look forward to what you develop. If you wish, I would enjoy looking over your shoulder and hold you accountable to getting it done and then living it out. That is what a good coach does.

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Creating Your Perfect Vision Statement

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Creating Your Perfect Vision Statement

In continuing the theme of developing and exploring a value statement, with your permission, a story about my own exploration may offer some inspiration. I was working through my own value statement with a coach (yes, I have a coach that helps me think through my own processes!) My ultimate goal is to set up a vision for the future based on the values that I have. What we were doing was looking at each word in the statement to work out how it fit into how I wanted to live and work.
The first part of the statement is, “Free to serve, grow and laugh”. Part of my life structure is enjoying the serving of people. I enjoy learning what they desire and need and then helping them obtain it. I get jollies out of seeing them take steps to obtain the goals they have set for themselves and the satisfaction they receive in doing so. So service is something big to me. The next word in the sentence is growth. The reason I enjoy serving is it provides the opportunity for others to grow and as they grow, I am learning from them and growing as well. That is a win-win for both of us.
As I was walking through this mentally, the theme of the old classic song “Is that all there is?” popped out. When we accomplish something, and there is no more to do, growth can stop in that area. There is usually a letdown after some major accomplishment. If we don’t have some other area to grow in we can become mental and physical couch potatoes. On the other hand, when we make mistakes, the mistakes give us the opportunity to continue to grow, as long as we persist. So, in my thinking process, serve and grow brought meaning to the word “Free.” Serving people as they grow gives us both the freedom and security to grow personally even through mistakes and still bring benefit to each other. Now, if you add laughter to the whole deal, what some might call “Joy”, I would be living out the first part of my value statement. Such a deal!! I am sure you have already thought of that but for me, that was a good use of my thought and it’s laying a foundation for the vision that I want to generate.
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Action Time.

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Having taken the time to create a value statement and writing out some scenarios where you see your values and skills at work, what are some of the emotions that you experienced? Do these activities provide an energy high or was it a drainer?   What are the drainers? Work through generating some of these ideas and you will be one step closer to designing a vision statement for the days ahead. I would look forward to hearing what your progress is.

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Creating a Vision for Your Future that Delivers Joy


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Creating a Vision for Your Future that Delivers Joy

Through the month of January, we looked at values and coming up with a Value Statement. Whether we realize it or not, we usually feel most fulfilled when we live within our personal values. Often while I do something foolish or out of character and then generate a sense of guilt or shame, it usually is because I have stepped outside of the things I value most. Taking the time to focus on the values we feel important, writing them down and keeping them in front of us helps keep us on our personal track and doing the things that offer the greatest sense of fulfillment and what I will call “Joy.”
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I would offer to you that these values live inside our mental state and, when focused on, will motivate us to those actions that fulfill our own lives and hopefully the lives of others.
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So, this month, I would have you begin to consider the actions that flow from your values that give you purpose. I mentioned the Value Statement that I carry for myself: “Free to serve, grow and laugh through trust, integrity and zest, all for the glory of God.”   In looking at my statement, the first four value concepts are verbs, words of action: free, grow, serve and laugh. The last three are nouns: trust integrity and zest.  The last carries purpose. What verbs are in your Value Statement, what are the nouns and what is the purpose?

Action Time.

Let’s take some time to briefly experience your Value Statement at work to help in the next step, developing vision for the future. If your value or vision statement has verbs in it, take some time to look back over some of the most fond memories and events you have experienced. These may have occurred through pure chance or they may have been planned. It may have been a time when events caused your mental light to come on (some would call that an epiphany!) or you just did something out of pure intuition, it turned out well and you experienced a great sense of satisfaction. Write a few paragraphs about the event, the things you did in the process and the results. In this journaling, write down some of the emotions you felt. Now consider the process through the lens of your Value statement. How did they line up? What was the thought or action process that brought you into and out of this event? Was your focus such that all the events around you were blocked out and you were in the pure flow of it? As you write down a few of these events and consider them, are there any common elements that were part of these experiences? If so, what are they? I would look forward to hearing from you understanding what you developed. We are making some good progress.
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What Matters Most: Discovering your Core Values

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Getting to the CORE of your VALUES: Discovering your Core Values

Last week I mentioned some personal goals for the year. Over the next few weeks I would like you to consider a process that many have found beneficial in structuring lives, purpose and goals. So, with your permission, we’ll start the process. Here we go. While writing this blog, I have written about values a few times. So here is the exercise.
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Google the phrase “Personal values List.” You will find numerous sites listing values. One of the sites offers some 418 personal values. One site, www.akpsi.org, has a more generic list with some 60+ values. So here is what I would suggest, take the list that rings your bell and write each one down on a 3×5 card. I would choose the one with 60 as I am somewhat lazy! Now, on 5 ‘3×5” cards, write one of the following terms on a card: “Never valued,” “ Seldom valued,” “ Sometimes valued,” “ Often valued,” and “Always valued.”
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Then sort out the values that you have put on 3×5’s based on those 5 cards. Now, take the ones in the “Often” and “Always” valued sort and prioritize them, putting the most valued at the top and the least at the bottom. At the end of the day, you will have listed and prioritized the values that are most important to you. Probably a good exercise. These are the values that are most important to you and hopefully the things that others recognize in you.
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Action Time.

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When you have come up with the top 10 to 15 values, make a list of them. Now here comes the hard part. Mentally go through the list of good friends and relatives. The goal is to ask them if they feel these values represent you well and which ones rise up to the top as seen through their eyes. When they offer their opinions, just say, “That is really interesting” and “Thank you for your input.” No need for discussion here. The goal is to refine the list based on your personal judgment and the judgment of others around you. Multiple opinions from quality people provide input, additional insight and refinement. Take their thoughts into consideration. Now, do your best to come up with your top 5 to 10 values based on this process. I would look forward to hearing from you and the results you come up with.

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How to Start Healthy and Productive Relationships

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One benefit of going to college is the relationships that one develops with peers and instructors. The roles one takes on campus and in their personal life are often indicative of the paths they will take in relationships and careers. Some of the people you meet in high school and college will be friends and acquaintances for the rest of your life.   These relationships can be uplifting or debilitating.
Dr. John Gottman has developed a variety of measurements on marital relationships and does so from a few interesting angles, including Game Theory. If you know anything about Game Theory, you may be wondering how or why a psychologist would use this math concept to deal with relationships. I will let you figure that out. Now this isn’t a blog about marriage so don’t worry, I’m not going there. Dr. Gottman does offer some important characteristics to consider in people that you would want to develop lasting relationships with. His big 5 are: Honesty, transparency, accountability, ethical actions and proof of alliance.
Honesty is self-explanatory. For Gottman, transparency is sharing details with you and introducing you to things and people that are important to the person. If they are unwilling to offer this basic information, what else may be going on that you may not be comfortable with? Accountability is not requesting that you just trust the person but he or she is willing to give details of important stuff. Ethical action speaks for itself. Proof of alliance is demonstrating that the person is on your side even in small ways and not only acting in their own self-interest.
If a person consistently fails on these basic issues, they probably aren’t people you want to develop a close and lasting relationship with. They may be good acquaintances, but may not be a good fit as a trusted friend.

Action Time

Consider going through Gottman’s big 5 in some of the relationships you currently have.
First off, how do you personally rate? Oops!   How can you improve? What steps can you take to become a more trustworthy acquaintance? How are you going to do that? Who will you hold yourself accountable to in following up? Having looked in the mirror first? How would you use this list to develop friendships in the future?
In the acquaintances you now have, how can you use these to strengthen good relationships and lessen poorer acquaintances? Now, don’t prejudge people but also don’t look through rose-colored glasses. Hey, let me know what you come up with and the steps you take.
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College Offers Are Here, Now What?

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College Offers Are Here, Now What?

What to know and do before going off to college

For most of the seniors, you have received various offers from the colleges you have applied to. Congratulations. If your mind is made up and you have made your selection, congratulations again. Next step is to graduate from high school and use the summer to enjoy family life as all this is going to change. You are starting a new adventure and taking one more step toward independence and that place called adulthood. Most of you will have hit the age of 18 and are eligible to vote. Do take the opportunity to register to vote and participate in this civic responsibility and privilege. You will most likely be away and have to vote absentee so find out how that is done.
For some who have received multiple offers from colleges and have not made up their mind just yet, here are some thoughts… This education thing isn’t just to load information into that amazing thing called your brain. It is preparing you for a career. So, that being said, the track record of job placement of a college is something to consider. You might check out what kind of placement record the potential colleges have in your career. You might also check out what employers sent recruiters to job fairs at the college and how many job fairs they have. Try talking to the office of the college that sets up the job fairs to get information on their successes with employers.
One other tool is to look at the percentage of students that default on their student loans. This can offer guidance in two ways. One, the graduates may be paying too much for their education. The second is that when they land a job, the job doesn’t pay sufficient to cover their bills. Third, the college didn’t attract students that could land a job. Well, the third one is a little harsh, but don’t take that one too seriously.

Action time!

If you do need to make a choice as to what offer to accept, what other criteria will you consider? In the application process, what were the critical criteria that caused you to choose a school? How do these schools line up when placed side by side? Where else can you go to help sway the decision in one direction or another? I would look forward to hearing your thought process and how you come to a decision.

 

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