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Raising the bar to raise results

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How having higher expectations leads to higher performance

Expect more to get more

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Set the bar higher

A school system in New York has an interesting way of grading with students.  At the beginning of the school year, each student starts with an “A” in the course.  It becomes their responsibility to maintain this high grade.  When testing the students at the end of the year, statistics suggest higher achievement and retention scores. In a parallel line of thought, a pair of psychologists has devised a system that compares with the views of a spouse toward their mate.  A simple outline of the three categories is:  more optimistic than how their peers view the spouse, the same as how peers view their spouse, and a more negative view then how the peers view the spouse.  The relationship with the more optimistic spouse typically lasts longer and has lower divorce rates then the neutral or negative spouse. Dah!  The suggested explanation is that the mate with the more optimistic spouse will attempt to live up to the optimist viewpoint, leading to a more satisfying relationship. In the same way, the children in the school system achieve higher test scores as they live up to more positive expectations.
I am blessed with a delightful group of clients for whom I put forth my best effort.  I do find that I make an extra attempt to please those clients that think highly of me, thus living up to their expectations.

Action Time

How would you apply this to your own circumstances?  If you have strength, try giving yourself an “A” and living up to that “A.”  If you have thought through your values and what is important to you, how might this apply to how you deal with your own actions and self-image? How might this mindset apply to your relationships and how you view and deal with other people?  Have some fun with it.  Make some notes in your journal as to the actions that you want to take then keep track of your thoughts and the response of others to this posture.  I look forward to hearing  what you work out and its impact.
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Self-Sabotaging Yourself?

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Are You Your Worst Critic?

Reprogram Yourself to Avoid Self-Sabotage

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We all develop an explanatory style of our performance and self-image.  That style can lean toward optimism or pessimism.  This development process in part is based on our innate personality type but also on coping skills that we consciously or unconsciously learn over time.  The issue here is that they are skills and we can learn new ones.  One thing that these coping mechanisms do is generate thoughts that run through our brain.  Sometimes those thoughts about ourselves aren’t very positive.  In fact, sometimes we are our own harshest critics. Have you ever thought (and accepted!) something about yourself that if someone else said that to you, you would probably deck…  well, you might get really mad at them?  The nature of the comment bore little if any truth.  Yet, because you thought it up all on your own and it passed through your gray matter, it must be true and you accept it.  May not be the best skill to keep, agreed?  We have the ability to reprogram our brain with other skill sets that allow us to live up to our potential and experience more fulfillment through the course of our lives.
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Check around the house for one of those rubber wristbands that were popular a few years ago or go out and get one.  Put it on!  Now, each time one of the self-criticizing thoughts goes through your head, snap the band.  Ouch! Good.  That’s your warning sign to change directions, not accept that mindset and the desire to develop another.  Make a mental note of it and discuss it with yourself in you journal.  Document what happened? What did you think about yourself? What are the consequences of those thoughts? If you were the world’s best attorney, how would you defend yourself against those thoughts and offer counter arguments to them? How are you empowered to go forward for the next time?
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How are those new wires working?  I would look forward to hearing your experiences and sharing them with others.

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Your Irresistible Life

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Make Your Life More Interesting

 Spruce up your Life

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     Inspiration sometimes requires an outside source.  In thinking through some of my more successful writing assignments in high school and college, two papers stick out in my memory. Both were in English classes, one as a junior in high school, the other in a freshman college English class.  I had read the assignment but couldn’t find a starting point to write it.  I took the opportunity to check out the works of other authors and after reading a few short paragraphs, the concept I came up with jelled and inspired me.  I worked the theme through and with some effort, applied some reasonable gray matter and, voila, I earned an “A” on both of these papers.  Now, it would be reasonable to think that I would take that success and apply it on other assignments.  Wrong. 
     Often, we look at the accomplishments that others have made and believe the whole deal started and ended with them.  Sometimes it does.  Most often, there was some unusual outside motivation or event that sparked their imagination and they used their own talents and thoughts to develop something unique.  To make life interesting, we need to schedule time to just explore stuff.  You will eventually find something that you can pour some time and creativity into that perhaps no one else has done.  Honing that process will cause you to become skilled and often passionate about the topic. Then seek out others who are in the same field and share your experiences.  You will develop a network of people who can help you and that you can help as well. 

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     Take a few minutes to block out some time to explore areas of interest and then explore and develop one that others can benefit from and develop it.  Enjoy the process and effort.  It transfers to other parts of life.  You will develop a creative process and enjoy the confidence it brings. 
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As always, I’d love to hear your stories or thoughts here.
 

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